Weekend Adventures of Livin the Sober Life

Weekend Adventures of Livin the Sober Life

Nearly a year ago (September 22nd, 2018), I hit a telephone pole 1 block from where I live. This was the result of me driving under the influence of alcohol. This drunken irresponsible decision also resulted in me getting a DWI that night. I’m not going to get into all of the details, as I’ve written about this in a previous blog.

After hitting the pole and getting a DWI, one might think that was enough for me to quit drinking. On the contrary, I had no intention of quitting at that point, I still wanted to have fun, but I did commit to never getting behind the wheel of a vehicle under the influence again. I got lucky once with hitting a pole and not harming anyone else, I wasn’t about to press my luck again.

On May 17th, 2019, I made a promise to not drink for 2 months, just to see if I noticed a change in my life sans alcohol.

On June 13th, 2019, I got incredibly wasted. It started with just having one glass of wine. But as history has proven time and time again, just one is never just one. I had a glass of wine, a really tall beer (maybe 2), somewhere along the way I switched to vodka crans (not sure how many). I think there was another beer or few in there along the way too.

Not even one month in to a two month promise and I broke it already. But wait, there’s more…

At the end of the drunken June 13th, I got in my vehicle and drove about 7 blocks home. Not only did I break my 2 month promise in less than 1 month, I broke my lifetime promise of never drinking and driving again in less than 1 year.

When I woke up the morning of June 14th, there was no question in my mind, I was done drinking. Not for two months, not for any set period of time, but for good. I was done!

August 14th, was my 2 month sobriety anniversary! While some days are a bit more of a struggle than others, I am doing well navigating my way through sobriety. The words “I don’t drink” have become my favorite three words to string together. I find great strength in those three little words. I’ve also learned that I have more fun being sober than I did when I was drinking!

This weekend is an example of what my life without alcohol is like now.

Friday 8/16/2019

Orono Lake in Elk RIver

Friday afternoon when I got off work, I went out to my Aunt and Uncle’s house in Elk River to spend time catching up and to hang out by the lake. My uncle, who is one of the kindest men I’ve ever meet, took us out on the pontoon to tour the lake. It is really a beautiful lake with so many friendly residents. Once we returned from our pontoon tour, my aunt jumped on her SUP/kayak and I jumped in another kayak that they have and we went for a quick row along the shore. It was a wonderful afternoon of spending time with family, taking in nature, and being alcohol free!

Saturday 8/17/2019

My virgin strawberry daiquiri

To start the afternoon off, my dear friend Leksy and I had lunch at Lord Fletcher’s on Lake Minnetonka. Leksy ordered a drink, but asked if I was ok with it first, and I ordered a virgin daiquiri. I’ve learned that I have less of an urge to drink, in situations I would’ve normally drank, if I have a virgin cocktail of some sort. It actually works quite well for me.

After lunch we went to a nearby park that rents SUPs (Stand-up Paddle-boards) , but they didn’t have any available, so we went back to Excelsior (where I live) to Tommy’s Tonka Trolly and rented 2 SUPs. It had been probably 6+ years since I had been on an SUP, and that was the one and only time I had been on one until yesterday. Yesterday was Leksy’s first time ever being on one.

The beautiful Lake Minnetonka
Me successfully standing up and paddling
Leks, Successfully standing up and paddling!

We had a lot of fun! I only fell off once. Leksy got a hell of a kick out of it! I think it might have been the highlight of her day. I’m just happy she didn’t have her phone in hand to capture it.

Afterwards, we went for ice cream, then to another nearby lake (Lake Ann) and sat there for a bit.

I have a deep love and appreciation for water. I forgot how much I truly love the serenity of it. It energizes me while also bringing me great peace and calmness. Connecting with Earth/Mother Nature is such an elevating experience. I love it!

I had a wonderful weekend filled with fun and laughter, and all without alcohol. This is me, livin the sober life, and thoroughly enjoying it!

This Week’s Mantra…


  • I am good enough
  • I am capable
  • I am competent
  • I am lovable

Today I had to look in to my therapist’s eyes and repeat the aforementioned affirmations. I honestly didn’t think I could do it. She kept insisting I could and I kept insisting that I couldn’t. Tears streaming down my face, it felt like she was asking the impossible of me. To look this woman, whom I have mountains of respect for, in the eyes and tell her these things about myself, that I don’t even believe, felt like I was lying. The two I really struggled with were “I am good enough” and “I am lovable”. She assured me that these things are all true, even if I’m unable to believe it, at this time.

Developmental trauma is a Motherf*cker and I will overcome.