My Ideal Life

When a take a moment to think about what my ideal life looks like, it doesn’t take long to realize I’m not living it.

When I close my eyes and draw to mind the image of my ideal life it looks something like this:

  • My profession is helping people, likely with a focus on victims of trauma. I can see myself as a:
    • Life Coach (with a focus on mindfulness)
    • Therapist (If I decide to go that far with my education)
    • Yoga Teacher
    • Energy Worker
    • Some how combine writing, photography, and nature with healing and overcoming road blocks in life.
    • Or a combination of the above
  • My Tribe is made up of like-minded people.
  • I own and operate a Wellness Center.
  • I live a more minimalist life.
  • I live in either a Tiny House, or a small house preferably lakeside or in the country. I have a garden where my partner (assuming I meet the right woman) and I grow our own produce. If money allows I/we will also have an indoor greenhouse for year round produce (I still reside in Minnesota).
  • I travel to various places, stateside and abroad.

These are some changes I can make, starting right now, to get me closer to my ideal life:

  • Show myself the same kindness, compassion, and respect that I show others and believe that I am deserving of my own kindness, compassion, respect, and love.
  • Be strong and confident in myself, my views, my beliefs, and my values.
  • Stop allowing myself to be treated as less than by others, regardless of their position in life. Self-respect and dignity are important and I will no longer give up mine for anyone.
  • Eat healthier. Make time to cook healthy foods rather than always defaulting to sugar loaded foods due to convenience.
  • Give myself time to rest. Sleep is important and I need to allow myself a minimum of 7 hours every night.
  • Make time to meditate daily, even if it’s only 5 minutes. I am deserving of this practice.
  • Make time for a daily yoga practice, even if it’s only a few poses. I am deserving of this practice.
  • Make time for writing at least twice a week
  • Make time for photography at least twice a month

There are other changes I will need to make that will take more time:

  • Continue healing from my own trauma
  • Certified as a Life Coach
  • Certified as a Yoga Teacher
  • Look into what I need to do to sell some of my photography (potential supplemental income).
  • Finish my BA in Psychology
  • Research starting a business/being a business owner
  • Look into Seminars and Workshops that will help expand my knowledge and ability to better help others.

These are some of the changes that I can make and will need to make in order to fully live my ideal life. There are many changes I know I haven’t even considered yet, but I will as they arise.

I don’t have to wait until I’ve completely built my ideal life to begin living it. I can begin right now. I can live it, in many ways in the present moment, as I continue building my ideal life.

I’ll need to be forgiving of myself on this journey as I will slip, I will make mistakes, I will have set backs; I need not give up on myself or on my ideal life during times of feeling defeated. I’ll need to remind myself of where I’ve been, what I’ve lived through, and know that I am strong enough to overcome anything that comes my way.

I’ll need to remember that my purpose is to help others in any way that I can, and I will best be able to do that if I am living a life that is true to the essence that is me.

Nothing worth doing is ever done without courage, patience, and persistence.



A Leap of Faith

I’m at a crossroad again. I need to figure out what to do with the rest of my life. Where to start. I know what I want my end result to be, but what do I do in the meantime? Good.Damn.Question.

End Result

Get my Master’s in Counseling Psychology and get my license to become an LPCC.


  1. Invest time into building a Life Coaching practice where my target clientele would be recovering addicts/alcoholics, adult children of alcoholics and/or dysfunctional families.
  2. Invest time and money into getting some of my photos printed and trying my hand at selling my work.
  3. Write the book I’ve been wanting to write for most of my life.

I’m leaning more towards options 1 and 2. I’m just not sure I am ready to write the book, but in time I will. I could probably do both 1 and 2 simultaneously. However, neither will produce an income immediately so that leads me to my next dilemma.

What To Do While Building Options 1 & 2

  1. Stay where I am even though I am growing more and more frustrated with every passing day?
  2. Find another position with a different company doing what I’m currently doing (I love what I do)?
  3. Go back to the world of production/manufacturing where I would make more money and work a normal shift, but would be doing something my heart isn’t in.
  4. Find something fun and stress free; perhaps a book store, some alternative medicine practice as a receptionist or assistant of some sort…

I’ve got some decisions to make. Last time I was faced with similar decisions I took a leap of faith and many wonderful things have come from it. I have to trust that when I make decisions based on what’s best for me that the Universe will open up doors for me.

I think I know what I have to do…